③寻找建设性反馈（Seek constructive feedback）
在做重要的决定时，你可以从你信任的人那里寻求一些意见和建议，而不用去管其他人的说法。同时，你也可以找一些知道如何给出建设性和具体反馈的人。
For important decisions, you may want to seek out a few opinions from people you trust -- and then forget the rest. Pick people who know how to give feedback that's constructive and specific.
④对自己负责（Take responsibility）
有时候担心别人怎么想其实是一种投射。你可能是在把自己的恐惧和内在的自我判断投射到了别人的想法上。因此，当我们将“不在意他人的眼光”视为一种责任时，我们也会不再苛刻地评判自己。
Sometimes when you're worried about what other people think, it's a projection. You're projecting your own fears and your own internalized self-judgment onto other people. So when we take responsibility for letting go of other people's judgments we empower ourselves to stop being harsh and judgmental with ourselves too.
你怎样看待“不被定义文学”？你又是如何避免被他人看法所左右的？来留言区和双语君分享一下吧。晚安，做个好梦，做不被定义的好梦。
